Release the energy!

Recently I made a discovery that changed the way I viewed everything about a particularly relentless season of setbacks I had experienced over ten years.  It was simply this, that Frustration is my friend!  It came about whilst finishing my arrangement of the last chapter of the seven Knots of Frustration in my forthcoming book, the Knot of Madness!

Right out of a Youtube video of James Dyson the inventor of such breakthrough products as the bagless suction vacuum cleaner, this is what he said……. “My life is a failure”.

Hardly, one would think!  Yet he meant that through failure he had genuinely gained his greatest insights and advances.

I witnessed a powerful illustration of this two days ago at a wool enthusiasts’ national exhibition.  I was on the look out for powerful marketing images but the moment photographed here totally blew me away!


The mother and daughter of a Suffolk based family craft shop called Spin City patiently showed me how to handle a drop spindle. This is the most basic, manual and low tech method of spinning carded wool into useful fibre, yet I was highly doubtful of my ability to co-ordinate the necessary hand movements.

I started to feel quite sceptical of Louise’s passion as she spun the shaft enthusiastically and pointed out that this built up “energy” in the emerging fibre.  (I was thinking “Energy! What energy?”). The thread started to twist, coil and knot unattractively above my pinched fingers.  Louise patched onto the dangling fibre a handful of soft fluffy wool for me to gently tease into a longer fragile tuft.  Then I was instructed to release my pinch above it.  I was amazed to see the fluffy fibre spiral immediately into a strong thread as the tension sprang into it and created a new length of wool!

This was the very energy of frustration that became my friend!

In this case an ugly, squirming and disobedient coil of overstrung fibre became an attractively striped length of colourful wool to gather and wind for productive use.

You need not despise the tension that builds in your life!

You can exercise it usefully!  Let us gather together, perhaps a little taut and jaded from the week at our family or worship gatherings. Let us acknowledge that we do carry some distress and rather than bundle it away disastrously, value its potential, bring and add to it the softness of fellowship and trust.  Release that pinch you have upon your contained thoughts and feelings.  Just see what springs into life between the moment of release of the old and the incorporating of the new today!

I want to make you aware of an invitation below that will be exactly this kind of opportunity…..

Come and combine your respective energies in a few incredible moments in November. It will be a phenomenal springing forth of old into new as my mentors and friends of the Igniting Soul Tribe hold their highlight annual conference event.  In a masterly way I know you will be shown how you can even change in an instant.  You will recognise this is an opportunity in a supportive atmosphere to take a chance to release the fearful pinch you are holding upon an aggravatingly twisted life.

I look forward to seeing that energy come forth in you!
Igniting Souls Conference




It’s been an intense few weeks.

I have been steadily working toward the self imposed deadline of submission of my manuscript.  Developing a severe nerve pain in my shoulders, and typing elbow and hand was unwelcome to say the least.  I allowed myself a wonderful break in the US, yet with little improvement symptom wise.  I had to press on.  I had the golden opportunity of two weeks with the house to myself before my children returned from their respective travels!

Within those two weeks of my return, the husband of my holiday host and friend was involved in a head on collision with a car that swerved across two lanes into his path.  It was remarkable that he survived though he has been afflicted with severe Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.  Rather than physical injury, these deep mental wounds have suddenly disrupted his whole way of life.  What a very sobering thought it is, to have been part of this close family, travelling in that same vehicle two weeks ago and knowing that my friend’s outlook has changed forever!

At a recent women’s group, this was still on my mind when we were challenged to think about the nature of interruption in our lives.  At the one extreme there is the car crash such as I have already described.  At the other, I often find myself fielding my son’s incessant driving home of a point or a question until I am weary of explanation.

Interruptions are a nuisance.

Yet the challenge is to think of them as potentially positive.  They open us up to one another in ways we would never normally interact. They can completely alter the landscape of our lives when they bring new information, reconciliation or affirmation such as a job offer or an unexpected gift!  Even the interruptions that are inherently challenging alter us in remarkable and valuable ways if we will allow them.  I am thinking of a young wife and Mum whose husband nearly died in critical care seven years ago.  They are such a solid family now.

Last week I dropped everything to go on an exclusive leadership retreat. It had never been in my calendar but the offer arose and I was exposed to high calibre facilitation, reflection and soul food, exquisite cuisine and the finest views and open spaces, companionship with top UK leaders and all I had to do was trust that the moment was right. It was a necessary interruption.

Around the bonfire on the shores of Loch Ness on the last evening I found myself relating what had been affirmed to me.  We HAVE to know who we are. We simply must do this exploratory work on ourselves whoever and wherever we are. I had recognised that despite lots of reasons why I might not have been able to hold my own in such company, I was as focussed as any of the group.  As Brene Brown has said, “I am enough…and I’m curious to see how good I can get” (Interruptions permitting)!

I was shocked yesterday to hear that another major UK retailer is going under. I had just spent four days with one of their own leaders at the retreat we had left on Friday.  How our worlds can be turned upside down in a moment!  Yet I know that something like this can be the interrupting catalyst for an amazing journey of self discovery of genius within.